Real Confidence Blog
Science, Secrets & a Touch of Tough Love
This is a guest article was contributed by Luke Strauss.
Exercise is one of the best things we can do for our health. It keeps our bodies fit and our brains anxiety-free, so that we can face the day ahead feeling confident and clear-headed. Unfortunately, for some of us, the very prospect of going ...
âSay âThank Youâ,â you were told time and time again as a kid. Your parents just wanted you to be polite, but it turns out thereâs actually a lot more to gratitude than just good manners. Â
Building a practice of gratitude has been linked to better wellbeing, decreased depression, better-quality...
Every time I see friends comment âI see from your social posts that youâre doing great and very busyâ, Iâm flattered and disappointed at the same time.
Shame on both of us. I admittedly only post brag-worthy stuff. Who doesnât? My friends seemingly assume thatâs my entire life status. We all do ...
On a recent gray Monday, I felt unmotivated, dumpy, and otherwise disheveled. Despite my mood, I greeted the yoga instructor and classmates with genuinely warm hellos indicating that I was happy we all were there, especially after a long year of not seeing these gym friends.
A couple entered lat...
Ever drive somewhere and realize you somehow got there without really paying attention to the road the entire time? Itâs because youâre distracted at least and more likely overwhelmed.
Being overwhelmed hijacks everyoneâs executive functioning, denying us presence so that we just go through the...
Weâre taught that showcasing our accomplishments is âcockyâ, but hereâs why thatâs not true:Â
Cockiness is defined by âoverconfidenceâ, meaning that you are speaking above your accomplishments, not about them. While confident behavior builds credibility and trust, cocky behavior diminishes it.Â
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Ever hear the phrase, âMonkey see, monkey doâ? This is often used to describe the way monkeys (and people) seem to do things without understanding it. Whatâs interesting is that this phrase accurately describes Giacomo Rizzolattiâs experiment with macaque monkeys in 1992. In this experiment, Rizz...
Most people think outwardness and confidence go hand in hand. From heavily socialized classrooms to open floor plan offices, western society grooms extroverted tendencies and then scans for those same traits when teasing out the leaders from the followersâbelieving that introverts arenât as confi...
No matter how hard you work to strengthen and sustain your own confidence, there will always be people who put it to the test; acting in ways (whether intentionally or not) that threaten to blow your hard-earned skills to the ground, like a flimsy house of cards.Â
Upon first glance, these people mi...
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People who know me are often surprised that I donât have a housekeeper. While I can afford it and with all that I manage and do, it would seem I âshouldâ have someone help.
Some people may see cleaning as something below them, a waste of time, or simply something they donât do. Some may feel tha...
Criticism can cut, though some people have higher pain tolerances. But if you donât consider yourself good at taking feedback, thereâs hope.  Receiving constructive criticism is a learnable skill that perhaps ironically, builds confidence.
Why feedback hurts:
If criticism feels like a personal at...
Picture this: Youâve worked hard to prepare for an important meeting: researching the data, studying the numbers, and compiling notes. Come meeting day, you open your mouth to make your first point when your co-worker jumps inâspeaking louder than you. When you finally do get a word in, your boss co...