EP 131- Real Confidence: Giving Feedback is a Confidence Move

If I had something on my face, like smeared makeup, or a bit of schmutz on my glasses, would you tell me? Or would you awkwardly smile, hope someone else says something, and let me walk around all day wondering why nobody said a word? 

I mean, it’s such a weird social code, right? We freeze, we hem and haw, we sugarcoat or do nothing at all. And the wild part is we’re the same people who get frustrated when no one tells us when we look off!

We just talked in an earlier episode about getting criticism— how personal it feels, and how fast our brains spin when someone points something out. So you’d think giving feedback would be easier, right? But nope. Somehow, knowing how much it can hurt makes us even more hesitant to give it.

Staying silent doesn’t protect anyone though. It undermines trust, confidence and sometimes even opportunities.

Confidence isn’t just about how you take feedback—it’s about having the guts to give it too. And I’m not talking about delivering it like a drill sergeant, but honest, kind, human-to-human honesty. Like: “Hey, just a heads up—your sunscreen isn’t blended well,” or “Your comment in that meeting might have come off differently than you intended.” It’s small, it’s real, and yes, it’s awkward—but that’s the point. 

Confidence lives in those moments where you choose courage over comfort. Being willing to say what needs to be said builds trust, strengthens relationships, and, honestly, it’s contagious. People notice when someone can give feedback without ego or judgment—and they respect it.

Consider this episode your BFF permission slip: it’s okay to speak up. Your honesty could be the thing that saves someone’s day—or their career.