Ep 29: Real Confidence- How to be Confidently Pissed Off

How to be Confidently Pissed Off

It may not seem it on the outside but I am easily aggravated. And when I'm tired, or a lot of stuff is going on, I have to fight hard to stay ‘nice’ and not give someone a piece of what's really in my mind and on its way out of my mouth (or typing fingers!)

But not all sources of aggravation are equal - some situations just annoy us and waste our limited cognitive energy. The aggravation is fleeting and we don’t ruminate about it. More frustrating situations can get literally under our skin and into our brains. We might lose sleep or be so stressed out that the aggravation psychologically and physiologically damages our wellbeing.

We’ve got our everyday annoyances, like walking into a restroom stall to find the person who was there before us didn’t flush. Disgusting, but easily dealt with and forgotten. Then we’ve got what I call our “WTF frustrations”, situations like someone replying to an email and asking questions that you clearly addressed in the original note that they obviously didn’t take the time to read. That type of thoughtlessness is annoying for sure but can be dismissed by thinking something like, ‘they’re just a numnuck’. 

Then there are the situations or behaviors that utterly piss us off to the point of physical reaction - and everyone can see it. Just try wasting my time or money! That’s pretty much guaranteed to raise my aggravation shackles and get a visual reaction.

No matter how grievous the insult or injury though, we always have choices in how we respond - three options, in fact. In this podcast, I break down what they are and give you strategies on how to simmer down an aggravating situation into something less stressful and more productive than kicking the dog or verbally damaging your human relationships.